Screaming mimi creates havoc with first cousins
Screaming Mimi, our ego, has two first cousins that can cause so many problems to each and every one of us. I introduced one of the cousins: Reaction Woman. The other first cousin is Drama Queen. Mimi picks which first cousin she wants to play with at any given moment. As we give Mimi less power, the other first cousins become less involved with our lives. When we allow these cousins into our daily lives, there cannot be any true happiness. Today, I want to talk about Drama Queen.
I have allowed Drama Queen to take part in my life a great deal. We all know her, sad to say. We like having her around. She seems to make our life more interesting. But it’s not real; it is not Truth. I caught a fish two feet long, yet it was, at best, six inches long. That is Drama Queen speaking.
Drama Queen hates innocent perception. What is innocent perception? It is looking at every situation and just seeing what is without any judgments or exaggeration. In the simplest example, if look at a group of people talking in the corner, what would I say I see? I see six people. It seems they are all talking with each other. Drama Queen might say “I see six people talking, and I can tell they are angry with each other. I heard Sam and Dave got in a big fight, and they are at it again. Did you hear about that fight? Let me share with you.” Meanwhile, what was really happening was the music was loud so they were speaking loudly to each other, and they were talking about how silly the fight was.
In another situation, Drama Queen might predict how someone is going to react for days before an event happens. “I know George is going to get angry when I tell him I will not be able to make it for his birthday. He always gets mad and always will.” Always predicting outcomes or exaggerating outcomes wastes energy and depletes happiness. I have spent two or three days worrying about what someone would say, to the point of becoming angry. That makes no sense. When you walk into any given moment without expectations, when you don’t bring the past into the situation, you can stay grounded and respond appropriately for the situation you are in, AT THAT MOMENT, and only that moment.
That’s the key: stay in that moment without bringing any baggage into the situation. In every situation, you want to bring your luggage instead. Let me give you an example of the difference. If you were going on vacation to a tropical island, what would you want to bring? I would bring a bathing suit, shorts, t-shirts, and flip-flops. Those items would be helpful to me. That’s luggage. If I pack a heavy coat, boots, and long underwear, I would be miserable. That’s baggage.
In other words, in every situation leave Drama Queen and Reaction Woman (baggage) behind and bring the tools that will help (the still, quiet voice, Ponder Woman). The three cousins only operate with baggage. That certainly doesn’t lead to happiness. I surely would not be happy on a warm beach with a heavy jacket.
I tend to put my hands on my glasses all the time. After a while I wonder why I am not seeing clearly. Oh yes, my glasses are dirty. All it takes to see clearly again is to take a moment and clean them. So, as we move forward into the week, let’s take the time to respond in all situations with a clean pair of glasses and leave the baggage behind. Have a beautiful, bright, and clear week.
Theresa Contaxis 