With the stress of the holidays fast approaching, I thought this would be a good time to write this. We try to understand love. We do loving acts and gestures etc., but few understand that we are love. I am love.
We put conditions on love. We don’t want to, but we do, even with our closest relationships. Your spouse comes home in a miserable mood, and they are condemning one thing or another. How do you respond? I know, at times, I would give it right back. Now that doesn’t help anything. To respond from the love that I am, I would calmly point it out and ask, “What happened? What do you need?” Until you get far enough in the journey, this is not realized, especially if you had role models (parents) who treated each other terribly.
Love, agape, is what makes the universe. It is everywhere because God is everywhere.
We think events, such as Christmas, are times that everything has to be wonderful, filled with the love (I see fit). We create how the holiday happens. I have allowed family dynamics to run the show. In truth, family dynamics should not run the show. However, I allowed the dynamics effect my holidays. I was filled with fear and dread on many a Christmas. I could not live in the present. I was always living in the past and projecting what happened in the past to the present. That is not what it is all about. It is supposed to remind us how to live and love every day.
All holidays point the way to the love that we are. These days are to help us get more in touch with love to continually bring forward into the next day. Love is always present. We allow situations to decide if we bring more love or diminish love. We can choose to use holidays as keys to open to the more expansive nature of what love is. Love is not meant to be situational. Love is always present, no matter the situation. Love is in the darkest of dark—it is always there. You cannot hide from love anywhere.
Where do I diminish my love? Well, like I said, I brought the past into the present. That left no room for a miracle. Where do I accentuate it? Living in the past, I had no time to accentuate love. The holidays can help us to pierce layers of pain, so the love can shine but we have to let go of the past. Without that, there is no room for the present. To get to the root of the pain, I had to let go of the fear and allow myself to feel the pain.
The only way I can get to the root of a pain is to sit quietly and listen to that still, small voice. Hearing that voice can be difficult because family can be hard, because those are the people that push our buttons best. When a button is being pushed, I take some time to breathe. This helps me to take a moment to ground and move into it without reaction.
Many moons ago, in the silence of my heart, Mother Mary was having a conversation with me, and I asked what is the biggest issue I had to work on. To my surprise, I got an answer I did not expect. She said that I react instead of pondering. I needed to learn to ponder. That means listening to that quiet voice.
Listening to that voice helps guides my love in the right manner. It has taught me that being loving does not mean being a wallflower and let anyone do anything to me. Great acts of love might seem unloving to someone on the outside looking in. I have seen parents give tough love to their child, and it ended up being just what the child needed. Tough love is love because you are honoring someone choices. It does not mean you are happy about it, but you are respecting free will.
Love cannot be bought. I tried to be the good little girl and tried to be what I thought my mother wanted me to be. By doing this, I sold myself short by not being my authentic self. I conformed not only on holidays but on everyday. Mother Charlotte told me:
“Doing anything without love is not worth doing.”
I did many actions without love. Now I wake-up and say “Today I choose Love.”
Theresa Contaxis 
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theresacontaxis
Nov 23
With the stress of the holidays fast approaching, I thought this would be a good time to write this. We try to understand love. We do loving acts and gestures etc., but few understand that we are love. I am love.
We put conditions on love. We don’t want to, but we do, even with our closest relationships. Your spouse comes home in a miserable mood, and they are condemning one thing or another. How do you respond? I know, at times, I would give it right back. Now that doesn’t help anything. To respond from the love that I am, I would calmly point it out and ask, “What happened? What do you need?” Until you get far enough in the journey, this is not realized, especially if you had role models (parents) who treated each other terribly.
Love, agape, is what makes the universe. It is everywhere because God is everywhere.
We think events, such as Christmas, are times that everything has to be wonderful, filled with the love (I see fit). We create how the holiday happens. I have allowed family dynamics to run the show. In truth, family dynamics should not run the show. However, I allowed the dynamics to affect my holidays. I was filled with fear and dread on many a Christmas. I could not live in the present. I was always living in the past and projecting what happened in the past to the present. That is not what it is all about. It is supposed to remind us how to live and love every day.
All holidays point the way to the love that we are. These days are to help us get more in touch with love to continually bring forward into the next day. Love is always present. We allow situations to decide if we bring more love or diminish love. We can choose to use holidays as keys to open to the more expansive nature of what love is. Love is not meant to be situational. Love is always present, no matter the situation. Love is in the darkest of dark—it is always there. You cannot hide from love anywhere.
Where do I diminish my love? Well, like I said, I brought the past into the present. That left no room for a miracle. Where do I accentuate it? Living in the past, I had no time to accentuate love. The holidays can help us to pierce layers of pain, so the love can shine but we have to let go of the past. Without that, there is no room for the present. To get to the root of the pain, I had to let go of the fear and allow myself to feel the pain.
The only way I can get to the root of a pain is to sit quietly and listen to that still, small voice. Hearing that voice can be difficult because family can be hard because those are the people that push our buttons best. When a button is being pushed, I take some time to breathe. This helps me to take a moment to ground and move into it without reaction.
Many moons ago, in the silence of my heart, Mother Mary was having a conversation with me, and I asked what was the biggest issue I had to work on. To my surprise, I got an answer I did not expect. She said that I react instead of pondering. I needed to learn to ponder. That means listening to that quiet voice.
Listening to that voice helps guide my love in the right manner. It has taught me that being loving does not mean being a wallflower and let anyone do anything to me. Great acts of love might seem unloving to someone on the outside looking in. I have seen parents give tough love to their child, and it ended up being just what the child needed. Tough love is love because you are honoring someone’s choices. It does not mean you are happy about it, but you are respecting free will.
Love cannot be bought. I tried to be the good little girl and tried to be what I thought my mother wanted me to be. By doing this, I sold myself short by not being my authentic self. I conformed not only on holidays but on every day. Mother Charlotte told me:
“Doing anything without love is not worth doing.”
I did many actions without love. Now, I wake-up and say, “Today I choose Love.”
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This is how love should be. I love talking about love. I hope you visit mine too and enjoy my love gist and experiences. Though i put in little but i hope we keep enjoying each others definitions.
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