Specialness

We all want to feel special and have special people around us, right? I ask, who wants to feel special? Well, Screaming Mimi strikes again. Our true Self doesn’t need to feel special or be special because our Spirits already know we are special. As I have said, we are created in the image and likeness of God.

I like to tease that I am highly favored by God. The truth is we are all highly favored. God has no favorites. What could be better than that?

Yet, I see so many ways that I have lived from a place of wanting to be special. What do you like to do and why? What is your intent? Let’s say you like to cook. When you cook, what is your intent? Is it from a place of love, wanting to share yourself in this way? The intention to share comes from a place of Love. 

Many organizations and religions use specialness to woo you. My father was a gambler, and the casinos gave him so many perks: free rooms, meals, and spa treatments. All he had to do was ask, and he would receive. He would get me rooms at times, and boy, did I feel special. How about religions that say you only go to heaven if ____________. Then followers of that religion try to let you know you could be special, too; you just have to believe. Commercials suck you in hook, line and sinker. You can look like this if you use this or that product. Men will desire you if you wear this perfume, etc. The list goes on and on.

This world has taken the need to be special and has capitalized on it in so many ways. Even governments take pride in being special. The US is the best country in the world! Consider Hitler and his desire for one race to rule above all else. It’s all rooted in wanting to be special.

One reason retirement and mid-life crises are struggles is because we relate to how special we felt earlier in life. A CEO might retire and become distraught if how he saw himself was all about the job—he felt important, special. They might love the money or the power, and bingo—now what? Everything they thought they were no longer exists and that person has to make life choices.

Do you wallow away thinking about the good old days, or do you make a choice to dig in deep and find real meaning in your life. I say real because the old was not real meaning—it was a role played. We all have to get past the roles and learn who we are—the divine, living in a body. It is not until you arrive at this truth that you can start living a truly self-fulfilled life.

Those two words, self-fulfilled, are beautiful together. That is what leads to a content life. You have to have a full life, not a fragmented one. I think the same applies to a mid-life crisis. One begins to wonder, What’s it all about Alfie? I am so happy I went through this in my younger years when I left the work field to be a full-time mom. That was a great gift—I just didn’t know it at the time.

I have written about my ego, Screaming Mimi, who loves to think it is special because of my spirituality. How lucky I am not to be like others who are not spiritual, and what good advice I could give. Boy, does that stink. Mother Charlotte said, “That is stinkin’ thinkin’,” and she was right. She would add, “Just repent.” To me, repent now means: have another thought.

When St. Teresa said, “I am nothing,” she was not putting herself down; she simply saw her littleness next to God’s greatness. That is is the way not to get ensnared in the trap of thinking you’re special because of your spirituality. Some have said spiritual pride is pride at its worst.

Take the time to ask yourself: What is my intent? Are you doing it to be noticed? If it’s to be special, your intent needs to change. Time to have another thought. Anything done without Love does nothing for you. If you gave $1 million to a cause but without Love, it is nothing. Yes, in this world everyone might talk about how special you are, but without Love, it is nothing.

And if I have the gift of prophecy and understand all mysteries, and possess all knowledge, and if I have all faith so that I could remove mountains, but have not love (God’s love in me), I am nothing.

1 Corinthians 13:2

Have a day filled with loving intentions. Thank you for your time.