Responsibility: a duty to deal with or take care of somebody/something, so that you may be blamed if something goes wrong.
Oxford English Dictionary
That definition lacks so much of what true responsibility means. Let’s start by establishing that we have come for a higher purpose that can be made manifest in the ways of the world but is not of the world. That’s responsibility.
How do you manifest in the ways of this world but be not of the world? We can do this by continually working on ourselves. We do this not by trying to “fix” others but by becoming more of who we truly are—the divine, living a human experience.
You start by sitting quietly with Spirit, with the Divine, God, your Creative Source. It starts with knowing the only relationship which holds any value at all is your relationship with God. God is the bullseye, not your spouse, children, or parents—nothing matters more.
Spending time with the Divine, you slowly hear the quiet voice of Spirit and let go of the loud, banging, and at times annoying voice of Screaming Mimi. The quiet voice will help get your inner life in order; that is our responsibility.
My personal commitment is to bring only the Presence of Love into this world. Needless to say, I fail often. I am, however, totally committed to this task. It is what I desire. I try to bring that thought into the forefront every morning.
Our thoughts shape us. If we are complaining even in our mind, that shapes us. Hear the line: if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. I say we need to take it deeper and be willing to listen to what our mind is telling us. If it is not in line with our Divine Source, who is Love, then we are missing the mark.
Questioning yourself is a part of it, not in judgment but just acknowledging. We need to allow ourselves to feel. This was difficult for me—when I was angry, the words “I am not angry,” would come out of my mouth. I suppressed my anger so much that I needed my Mary to keep saying to me, “Oh, you are angry.”
As you accept your experiences and emotions, you will begin to get through to the unconscious habits that were created as attempts to hide from what must be felt. We do this by taking responsibility for time. We stay vigilant, questioning ourselves. What thoughts am I choosing to hold onto? Only loving thoughts create the good, the holy, and the beautiful.
To be responsible, a knowing is needed: that you are free to see things differently. You are free to look lovingly at all. There is no need to wait for something outside of yourself to trigger a loving response. My choice. We tend to be triggered by someone else, whether in a good way or bad. We have to look at all our perceptions and question them.
We have to take responsibility for all our actions and not place it on the other. We have to unlearn everything Mimi has taught us. That takes honest reflection, which can be painful. Questions like: when have I manipulated someone in order to try to gain what I believed I needed? Or: when have I withdrawn love to hurt someone? Questions like these help you to release other people that you blamed for doing the same things.
We are co-creators, and we cannot run or hide from that responsibility. How do you want to create—in the image and likeness of God or in the image and likeness of Screaming Mimi? Those are the only two choices, Love or fear. That is always our choice and our responsibility.
An exercise to help change your thoughts is easy, but you have to stay vigilant. Even in situations that are “bad,” look for the Love that pervades everything and everyone. Maybe your new car breaks down and instead of becoming angry you choose to think differently. “My car broke down, but I am in the perfect place to see a beautiful sunset.” Can you feel how that changes everything?
Let’s use time to our advantage. See time as the opportunity to discipline the mind. Take time to quiet Screaming Mimi so you can hear the whispering of the quiet voice within.
I hope you are all doing well and are enjoying all of nature waking up again. Happy Spring. As always, thank you for spending a bit of time with me.
Theresa Contaxis 