All of us have ups and downs. All of us have days when we live our best self and days we don’t. So, if you only see one side, there is only misery; it is time to examine our irrational thoughts. If we don’t, we will stay unhappy. So much of our sadness and resentment is because we listen to Screaming Mimi. I know there have been many times in my life I allowed her to be the ruler instead of my higher self.
This can be painful at first, but slowly it becomes somewhat enjoyable. Why? It is freeing. You feel lighter, happier. As you let go of your perceptions, you free yourself from negative emotions and beliefs that no longer suit you. It is painful when you realize you spent precious time holding on to a perception instead of trying to work on yourself and your relationship with George.
What to do about it? Now, I try to remember to question the still small voice within, “What would you have me say or do that can serve the healing of their heart? What in this conversation is triggering me? Try to connect with the person’s spirit and see the innocent Light within. Believe me, I know it is easier to do with some more than others. Don’t get frustrated, keep trying, and all of a sudden one day, you realize that things between you and George are more peaceful.
Judgment always involves duality or contrast. So complaints are judgments: “It is too hot. It is too cold.” We also judge the positive, “I think that person does wonderful things.” How do you know that person is doing wonderful things? Do you know their motivation? Maybe they are looking to better their career or to be looked up to. Are they trying to get something? You don’t know, nor do I.
Theresa Contaxis 